Father Forgets

这是《人性的弱点》英文原版《How to win friends and influence people 》的节选，Father Forgets是一位父亲写给儿子的话，看完感触很深，摘取几个片段共同学习下。

Do you remember, later,when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes?When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door."What is it you want?"I snapped.

You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither.And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.

Well,son,it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me.What has habit been doing to me?The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding-this was my reward to you for being a boy.It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth.i was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.

父亲在看报纸，儿子胆怯的进来，估计本来想和父亲说几句，但是父亲的不耐烦让孩子迟疑了，于是孩子啥也没说，仅冲过来抱住父亲并吻了一下走了。

等孩子走后，父亲手中的报纸滑落地上，他征住了，孩子稚嫩的手臂提醒了他。

父亲一直以来的习惯——挑三拣四、训斥，其实不该是对孩子的“奖赏”。父亲意识到，自己并不是不爱孩子，而是对孩子期望过高，而这个期望是按照成人的标准，那孩子哪里受得了？

But tomorrow I will be a real daddy!I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatiently words come.i will keep saying as if it were a ritual:"He is nothing but a boy-a little boy!"

父亲最后对自己提出了要求：和孩子像朋友一样相处，和孩子感同身受：一起喜悦、一起面对困难。当情绪来临想要说一些气话时，时刻提醒自己：站在你眼前的只是个孩子。

God himself, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.

就连上帝也仅仅在一个人的最后一天才开始评判，作为凡人的我们，以后还是少去责怪他人吧。